In her second blog post, based on her Vision Workshop at the Aurora Conference in June 2017, Maeve Lankford, Aurora Ambassador, looks at how we can commit to our vision to be more successful. Maeve’s first blog post is available here.
Once we have clarity about the life we wish to create it is essential that we commit to that vision. We do that by making a decision that yes, this is the life I want to live and we commit to making it happen.
What happens in the absence of a decision?
In the absence of a decision, we have ongoing deliberation and hesitation. This causes stagnation and ultimately, in my experience, can have quite a depressive effect. We want something but we are no closer to getting it. We wish we had the qualification or ran the marathon or achieved the weight loss, but we’ve done nothing to achieve it so we feel even worse than before we set a goal in the first place. Now we experience both the desire for it AND the disappointment of not having done anything about it!
The power of the decision
You must make a firm decision for what it is you want in order to be able to bring your vision to fruition. Napoleon Hill, author of the book “Think and Grow Rich” concluded after studying 25,000 men and women that highly successful people formed the habit of making decisions quickly and changing them seldom, if ever, while unsuccessful people made decisions slowly and changed them frequently.
Making the decision therefore is the next requirement for setting in motion everything you want to achieve and it completely changes the game. While it may feel daunting, the good news is that it is actually the hardest part! As Robyn Davidson shares:
“The two important things I did learn were that you are as powerful and strong as you allow yourself to be, and that the most difficult part of any endeavor (sic) is taking the first step, making the first decision.”
Ultimately, it’s the decisions we are willing to make that shape our lives.
Articulating the decision:
You can literally use the phrase “I have decided… “ eg.
- I have decided to apply for the next leadership position in my Department or School…
- I have decided to spend quality time with my family…
- I have decided to eat more healthily and join a Walking Club…
Making such a statement has an immediately energising effect. It takes the spotlight off what is lacking and puts it onto taking action. This creates a positive emotional charge and you will feel both relieved and empowered by making the decision. Try it out. Notice how it feels to say to yourself and others “I have decided …”, it will instantly increase your confidence and motivation.
Taking action based on the decision
It is essential that you now reinforce your decision by taking regular, supportive action. You can do this, as mentioned in the previous blog, by daily asking yourself, what step can I take today that takes me in the direction of my vision? Then take that inspired step. Sometimes it might be as simple as repeating the good habit you have set in place – choosing the healthy option, avoiding a particular person or conversation, working on rewriting your CV. Occasionally it might be a bolder step, like submitting the CV for the leadership role you’ve been thinking about. In general though you simply want to take consistent, small steps that incrementally, over time, deliver your vision.
Finding support in uncommon places
The act of making the decision and taking action to support that decision, also gives a clear signal to the universe about your intentions, enabling supportive situations and circumstances to come into your experience. William H Murray, the Scottish mountaineer, was three times invited to participate on the Everest expeditions. On the first two occasions, as he describes it himself, he was put off by the cost, believing he couldn’t afford it. On the third occasion, knowing it was his last opportunity and wanting to be involved, and despite still not knowing how he’d afford it, he made the initial down payment. He paid up, knowing he’d forfeit everything paid if he didn’t make all payments. But that initial decision to make the first down payment changed everything. This is how Murray explains it:
“Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one elementary truth, the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans, namely: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issue from the decision, raising in one’s favor all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance, which no one could have dreamt would have come their way. I learned a deep respect for one of Goethe’s couplets: ‘Whatever you can or dream you can, begin it because boldness has magic and power and genius in it.’” (Emphasis added)
No new process can begin and no new path can be forged until a decision has been made. And once you make a firm decision, even in the absence of perfect conditions, a whole manner of things begin to occur and rush to your aid for its fulfilment. So take your vision to the next level, make the decision to commit to it and start taking regular small steps to achieve it and you’re half way there already.
In the final blog of this series, we’ll discuss how to overcome the fears and doubts that inevitably arise when we start to make changes in our lives, sharing hints and tips for successfully working with them.
Maeve Lankford, joined the Leadership Foundation in 2015 as Aurora Ambassador to promote Aurora in the UK and Ireland, having formerly been Aurora Champion for University College Cork.
Maeve has over 25 years’ experience of working in personal development and growth in higher education and beyond. Having held various roles in HR, Equality, Learning and Development and Welfare, her principal expertise lies in leadership and management development, group facilitation, action learning, executive coaching, personal development, resilience and well-being.